Love VS. In Love

So I was thinking about this today at work. I believe that when two people are in love they get married and spend a life time of happiness together. Some people believe that when two people are together for 3 or 4 years that they should just get married because that's it. Now God bless the people who have choice a., but for those of us who get choice b...let's talk. I just am wondering that if you marry someone because you have been with them for so and just figure that, that's it your supposed to get married. What happens if you meet the true love of your life after that? Do you get divorced? Do you do nothing? How does that work. I know a man who is married and has a little girl but he is in love with someone else. That can't feel good. It;s not like he fell out of love with his wife he truly does love her, but he is IN LOVE with someone else. That's not fair to him, to know that this other woman is truly meant for him and will give him all the happiness in the world. It's not fair to his wife because she thinks all is fine and dandy. What happens then huh?

Lazy Boy...Or Girl

I have worked with a new employee at the company side by side for about 6 or 7 months now. I have NEVER met anyone so lazy in my entire life. Our job is fairly simple. You answer phones, get your designated phone calls done, work on any reports you need to do and get the dealers what they need (ex fax, email, etc.). Now tell me why she thinks this is a hard job. She fakes her phone calls...I mean really? All you do is call and ask if they need anything or is there anything I can help you out with and then log your call and continue. She logs the calls but never actually makes the phone calls. I have had multiple complaints about her and passed them along to management and what do they do...NOTHING. No one every says anything to her. If I were to get this many complaints made about me your damn skippy someone would have said something to me about it. You know what I mean. I answer my cell phone if it is my mom, sister or dad calling, anyone else has to wait. This girl is always on her phone. not only is she always on it but when it rings she gets up and walks away then comes back to her desk. I just don't get it. It's not that I have anything against her personally, I'm sure she is a very nice person but my God, is the girl the laziest person I have ever met.

Breaking up IS hard to do...

Well whoever sang that song wasn't lying hunnie, let me tell you. Breaking up sucks and it really is hard to do. I mean, everyone knows that but when you really think about it, there is no way you can prepare yourself for it. My boyfriend and I broke up the day before Valentine's Day this year, OK, that was a lie. He broke up with me the day before Valentine's Day this year and yeah, it sucks, clearly. What I can't figure out though is whether I'm more upset about the actual break up or the fact that I know all the emotions and crappy feelings I have to go through before I can be happy again...you know what I mean? He said it's because he needed time for himself and he was upset with himself, not me. I know that sounds like every other break up too, but I believe him. I did nothing wrong in this relationship and I think that is what is helping me get through it. He really does need time for him, he was stressed out at work and depressed and I think he just needs some him time. Me on the other hand. I don't know what I need...maybe a drink or two. I have found that being with my guy friends has been helping me feel better about things. Not because they are guys but because they will tell me the honest to God truth, from their point of view. It's rough and it's going to be a log hard journey but what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger right? When life deals you crappy hands one after another, you know there has to be a good card coming up soon...I'm just waiting for my ace!

COLLEGE...WHAT IS THAT?

Well, today has been interesting so far and it's only 11:00 AM. They had opened up a position at work last week for something I very easily could have done but the requirements were 1-3 years experience (which I have) and a Bachelors degree. Really? A Bachelors degree, to do what...you don't go to college for real life experience you go to college to learn then get a piece of paper saying this is what you've learned and how long you have been learning for. I don't get it. I don't think that a degree is necessary for a position like this I think experience is worth much more. Ex specially in this type of environment. They aren't going to teach you how to be nice to people, how to pick out giveaways and how to make a lane set up and lot designation at college. Then again, maybe they will I just haven't heard of the University yet. I think that if you walk into a job interview and you have 3 years experience for a job you should get it, but yet you don't, you get beat out by the person who has less experience then you but has a piece of paper with their name on it letting you know their mom and dad paid for them to go to college and party for four years...interesting huh?

My Family = My Life

(from left to right) Me, Liz (my sister), Paula (my Mom) and John (my Dad). This is my family and they are my life. My family has always come first in my life and they always will. My sister is the person in my life that I always go to first, with everything. She pretty much gets me ready for when I need to tell one of my parents. My sister is also the one who gives me the best advice because she has been through a lot, she is smart and she is in the same age range as me so she pretty much knows exactly how I'm feeling. My mom is amazing, I swear she is super woman sometimes, she does it all she is an awesome grandma, a great sister, an amazing friend, a loving wife, a caring mother and a pretty all around wonderful woman. She has always been very understanding and knows how to talk to you or listen when you need her to. My dad, well he is your typical dad. he gets nervous when you drive in the snow, mad when you don't call and he hurts when I hurt. I get a lot of things from my father good and bad. I have his sense of humor which is awesome but I also get his attitude, which isn't so bad but you might want to watch out for it.

When I realized I was no longer a fly...

This is actually the night that the "fly on the wall" comment came into my life. My sister has recently gotten married, again. It's not how it sounds though they were married about a year ago and had a vow re newel this time around with a big party. As corny as what I'm about to say next sounds. This night changed me...I let lose, acted like myself, did what I wanted to do and has a blast and all this was for the first time in a long time. I don't usually get out there a bust a move on the floor or anything, but I did this night (as you can see). This night was the first time I felt 100% comfortable in my own skin for the first time EVER. That's a big deal..to me anyway.

Hello My Name Is...

My name is Kat. I live in NJ, I have my whole life. I work for ADESA NJ. I have a boyfriend named Jay. One sister, Liz. One brother in law, Dan. One niece, Grace. Two amazing parents, John and Paula. I love the beach, my family, my friends, coffee, diners, being in the car, getting dressed up, naps, music and life. For a long time I have been one of those people who does what they are expected to do (not that there is anything wrong with that) but you must admit, it gets boring. I love my job, but would like to experience other things, I love New Jersey but want to see the world and don't get me wrong I love my life but who doesn't want a little adventure here and there. Up until recently I have been, in the words of my Aunt "a fly on the wall" I was a watcher, I would watch other people do things that I wanted to do. And now my 2009 + goal is to be the one who other people are watching, enjoy the small things, try new things, go new places and find out a little bit more about myself on the way...